Holding Hands

Connection through Conflict: a Testimony

One of the greatest achievements of my life is the relationship I have with my son’s dad.

Almost more than any other work I’ve done, this impacts my daily flow, the lives of my children and will ripple out into future generations.

Raise your hand if you were taught, shown or expected to have ugly break ups. 🙋‍♀️

The modeling I received in this area was a friggin mess.

Court battles, heated, violent arguments, kidnapping (no sh*t), insults, mistrust.

Ultimately, this led to me growing up without a dad.

And, yo…we need the dads.

One of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do was really *hear him* when he said…

I don’t want *this* anymore, AND I’m *still* here for you.

When he chose to end our relationship, I was devastated. 

This was my person & deep down, I thought we’d be together forever. Sure, we had arguments & such but I thought this was just normal relationship stuff. As it became clear that the fissure between us was beyond repair, I started to get really scared. 

Where would I live? 

Who would take care of the kids?

And the one that tormented me most: what was so bad that he didn’t want to be together anymore?

Big stuff.

And it brought even deeper questions into awareness around my identity, life path & choices thus far.

Had I done something wrong?

Maybe picked the wrong person or moved too fast? 

I tried to backtrack & make sense of what had brought me here to this place I really didn’t wanna be at.

Maybe you know that feeling. 

As the days and weeks and months unfolded, I began to see…

I had choices.

I could stay mad.

Mad at him, mad at myself, mad at the world for letting this happen.

And I saw the track of that.

A version of me ten years down the way still bitter, angry and closed to healing.

I knew for sure I didn’t want a life like that.

Or…swallow my pride, actually hear the feedback I was getting, accept my part in the breaking down of our connection & go mining for wisdom.

The thing is, life will always give us things we feel unprepared for. 

This is how we grow, elevate & expand.

In this testimony you’ll see:

✦ a beautiful example of someone who has gone through the trenches and actually come out thriving

✦ intimate details of the story (navigating sex after the break-up, living together for 10 months, etc)

✦ the spiritual work I was doing learning up to it that I came to see as a catalyst

✦ Much more!

You’ll learn:

✦ how I responded to friends and family members who disagreed with how we were handling it

✦ what it’s like to meaningfully part without lawyers

✦ the spiritual aspect of partnership and the role it plays in our lives

✦ the art of letting go to make room for something better

✦ So much more!

​​Who it’s for:

✦ you’re somewhere in the process of parting ways with your once-forever-person and it hurts

✦ you’re feeling scared and disoriented but willing to see a different perspective

✦ you haven’t been able to heal or move on from an important relationship

✦ you want to be in dialogue around relating, communicating, navigating challenge, identity shaping

✦ you’re interested in understanding suffering and learning how to hope after your heart’s gone through a breaking

Logistics:

✦ Via Zoom, an online video platform

✦ January 6th | 1pm (AZ time)

✦ 60-90 minutes (ish)

✦ Recording emailed after

✦ Optional Q & A

✦ $22